Not so long ago, one salary could buy a house and support a family. Today two incomes are standard, as are single parent families. But the appointments, the meal planning, cleaning, and the thousand small decisions a day didn’t disappear. Nobody’s “job” became everybody’s background load.

Unless you’re at the very top of the income scale, you can’t buy your way out with a PA or a housekeeper. So people run a career and a household at the same time; and in between, they’re stretched increasingly thin.

Overwhelm isn’t a personal failing. It’s a structural problem.